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Today, we are supposed to be thankful and show appreciation to loved ones. What if you don’t really have anything to be thankful for? I mean, that’s not entirely accurate, as you can be thankful for something as little but vital as being alive and also the ability to own a device that allows you to read contrary posts like these. Yeah, there’s always something to be thankful for, I agree.

Sure enough, you can name one thing or several other things to be thankful for… your job, your friends, your spouse, or even the fact that you have invites to two parties today. However, what if you can’t be wholly thankful because there’s one thing holding you back — that one joy or expectation that you were going to be thankful for, come Thanksgiving, but didn’t come to pass, and you cannot even say them out loudly. Maybe your biggest joy was dashed and now there’s a daily, aching reminder of what should have been but is not.

I am writing this for you. I don’t know who you are, and I don’t know your story, but I want you to know that my heart aches for you. I get it (you). I understand it(you). I even understand the pressure you may feel to look and sound happy, to put up a front because heck, that’s what you are supposed to do as it is Thanksgiving. Life is beautiful, yeah you know this, but it’s just so hard to grasp that concept now. And so you feel guilty about not being grateful enough coupled with the shame of whatever you are feeling, and all these make it stressful to enjoy the holiday. And it makes you feel like an ingrate and a horrible person.

This cannot be far from the truth.

It’s OK if you are unable to express how thankful you are today, even if you tried your hardest.

It’s OK if you cannot see the good out of the bad thing(s) that has happened to you, that genuinely rocked your world.

It’s OK to be sad and angry that things aren’t going the way you planned.

It’s OK to stay indoors today and not feel the societal pressure to socialize when it’s the last thing you’d like to engage in today.

And it’s OK to cry and have that conversation with God to let him know how you are hurting. Don’t hold anything back. Go as far as questioning what exactly his plans are in all of this chaos (remember ALL things work for your good, eventually. Rom 8:28).

Dear friend, as I raise my glass today and say what I am thankful for: I will take a pause and reflect on you and I hope you know that you are not alone.

TL, DR: All I am trying to say is I am giving permission not to be OK today. Summarily, it’s OK not to be OK today.

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