Life After the Suicide of a Loved One

사랑하는 이의 자살 후의 삶|Beyond the Shadow: The One with Debra Blaylock: Episode 22 (2024)

“I had to change my furniture. They came in and took my curtains, drapes, couch, and even the quilt I had made specifically for him — they wouldn’t let me keep it. I had to repaint the house and redo the floors because he had bled through them when they did CPR. They even wanted to take my dad’s chair, and I said no. That was the only thing I was keeping; everything else could go, but I was keeping my chair. I had just lost my dad in 2018.. By 6 a.m. the next morning, they called to say they were done and ready to sign the house back over to me. I told them to give me 15 minutes, and I was there. It took me two years to be able to sit in the living room, even after buying new curtains and furniture. I just couldn’t do it. I would eat in my bedroom and watch TV, avoiding the living room entirely. My living room is off to the side, so I would go from my bedroom through the hallway to the kitchen, bypassing it completely. That was my routine for over two years.” — Debra (2024)

“There’s always someone who cares, even if it’s not immediately visible. I’ve never heard anyone say they were glad someone they knew committed suicide — it’s always, ‘I never saw that coming.’ Pain, whether physical, emotional, or mental, can make you feel ‘less than’ and lead to thoughts of leaving. But there’s no ‘happily ever after’ for those left behind — only an unfillable void. So, consider staying. Pain, as…