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What No One Tells You About Marriage
Luckily Someone Just Did
When girls meet up for a chat, be sure that their men are on the conversation list #BechdelTestFail. In that regard, my sister-in-law, Iyanu Adedipe, and I are no different, as did just this exactly during my stay in Nigeria in January.
Iyanu is married to my husband’s twin, Kehinde. She is a mixologist, a lover of rice and fish sauce, and the only one I know who goes to the movies alone. Really, who does that? We had an in-depth conversation on our husbands and married life in general; we highlighted some of the issues we have had to deal with and how marriage has shaped us for the better.
Our husbands are as fraternal in their physical appearance as they are in their personalities. While Taiwo, my husband, is the nerd and bookworm, Kenny, Iyanu’s husband, is the outgoing and crazy one. Iyanu and I joked about how we married the wrong twin.
Critically examining our marriages, we saw that friendship with one’s spouse goes a long way in building a healthy relationship. It holds things together during times of little to no romantic connection. As with every relationship, communication plays a vital…
